“Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come, remember all the battles that you’ve faced, and all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome”.
Disability is not inability….
All very profound but very true statements.
Ever since I was compos mentis following my accident, mind you, you could argue that I’m not quite there yet but, I was so determined that I wouldn’t always be disabled, nothing else really mattered.
Of course I was very disillusioned because, I will without question always be disabled.
What became very apparent is, the fact that there’s a huge difference between being lazy because your disabled and, actually accepting that your disabled.
The line “Disability is not inability” is so very true indeed.
For a long time since being discharged from rehab, all I ever wanted to do was walk and return to living a normal life.
You could argue that I spent years wishing my life away, hoping for something that was never going to happen.
Since beginning my public speaking journey, I’ve been fortunate enough to meet some interesting and, some extraordinary people from all walks of life.
The most interesting and, rewarding of those, believe or not have been to old people’s homes, Sunrise Senior Living in particular.
I think that due their age they have probably had so much more experience than others, they have a tendency to understand and, appreciate more about life in general.
In all the talks that I’ve given, old people’s homes have certainly been the most emotional, where I’ve had several people in the audience burst into tears. They’ve also been where I’ve had the most praise with people queuing to shake my hand saying what an inspirational young man I am.
Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go is quite a poignant statement because, I’ve never really doubted that I had more to give, my challenge had always been what direction should I channel my energy, well what little energy I have.
Just remember how far you have come, remember all the battles that you’ve faced, and all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome. For me it’s hard to forget how far I’ve come when I look back at some of the photograph and, video evidence.
I’ve got photographs along with video stretching back to me fighting for my life in Germany, then taking some of my very first steps in rehab, through to cycling the JOGLE.
If that isn’t inspirational then I don’t know what is..…
It’s funny how, actually it’s quite painful to think about the amount of abuse the human body can take.
I’ve cycled many thousands of miles over the years, I’ve ran the London Marathon along with countless half marathons, 10k’s and cross country running events but, let me assure you that absolutely nothing compares to what I’ve suffered since my accident.
People have automatically and very wrongly assumed that I’m some kind Wizkid, probably because I’ve always been a roaring success, well since leaving school anyway.
Why can’t people understand that all I’ve ever been is a top salesman which, incidentally you don’t necessarily need to have any qualifications for.
As long as you can demonstrate that you know the principles of selling i.e. you know only to ask open questions that begin with either, who, what, why, where or, when, questions that demand a response your good to go.
I’ve never been one who’d buy a book or, a newspaper to read because anything that was academic I’ve always struggled with and, I’ve had no interest in therefore, why anybody thinks that with a brain injury I should be any different the mind boggles.
So here I am, I’m 47 years old, on the 20th February I’ll be 48, so for almost a quarter of my life I’ve been disabled.
Before I started my public speaking journey being disabled used to bother me, now due to my speaking journey along with the feedback that I always receive, it’s been the catalyst to me having the confidence to start socialising more in public.
Then when you add cycling to the mix, where I’ve gone from cycling just 6 miles round Cannon Hill Park in Birmingham, to now having cycled 956.04 miles from John ‘O’ Groats to Lands-end, (The JOGLE) my confidence and, my belief in myself has gone through the roof.
The absolutely crazy thing is, I’m actually achieving things being disabled, things that before my accident I probably wouldn’t have even dreamt of attempting.
I simply never had the time or, the inclination to cycle three Coast to Coasts or, The JOGLE.
Yet hear I am a 47 year old soon to be 48, disabled brain injury survivor having done exactly that.
2022 I can absolutely assure you will be equally, if not more spectacular.